NMP

I like you just the way you are. That is why I repeat this every January 1st.

However, if you are hell bent on making New Years resolutions have the decency and courtesy to avoid those self esteem destroying, I'm gonna lose 25 pounds by swimming suit season types. I'll all for self improvement, but self delusion goes a long way.

Allow me to offer the easiest resolution suggestion that you will ever encounter. It is in fact mind numbingly easy, it simply requires that you to change your outlook. If you do it right you will find its simple principles, will improve every aspect of your life. And its free.

With heartfelt thanks to my old boss, Hap Lignoul, and author Douglas Adams I call it NMP. NMP should become your mantra. NMP, as in Not My Problem.

Imagine sitting at home worrying that your doofus high schooler forgot his lunch money, homework, and scheduled 3 calendar conflicts. Instead of stewing about it, remember NMP. You're not paying the price, let him deal with it. Do not give it another thought.

Co-workers flight leaves in an hour and he hasn't left for the airport yet? Bummer, but its NMP.

Is your neighbor off her diet? NMP

Are Karen and Mary at odds? NMP

Not for the world, do I suggest you give up your kind, generous, thoughtful manner. What I am suggesting is, that if everyone worried about what was their own small piece of the world, and kept their nose out of everyone else's business, the world would be a much better place. Your stress level falls. Your blood pressure falls. You live a longer and healthier life. Your near adult children just might learn the value of price paying,and responsibility, once they see you love them enough to let them fail, HARD if necessary. Focus on what you are responsible for, and leave the rest.

Try it, I dare ya.

Happy 2012 to each and every one of you. Let's make this a wonderful, happy, joyous year. We deserve it.

Toad